When I was 17/18 I used to ref go games 8-10s, and I was very strict on any talking back to me, from players or management. Managers would give out stink, and I told them, firstly, the reason they think it's ok is because they see how you're talking to me. And secondly, if they are let away with it at that age they'll grow up thinking it's acceptable.
While there are many shite refs and the standard of reffing in general is low tbh, the lack of respect is shocking. The abuse those lads have to put up with is actually ridiculous and it's about time the gaa did something proper about it and not just their "give respect get respect campaign" because I can tell you from experience it doesn't work. No use teaching the kids respect when they learn from their coaches behaviour which is the oppposite.
But anyways that is a discussion for a different thread